Maybe I’m a hypocrite for telling other people to not considering I have, but let me tell you why this show shouldn’t be on your watch list. I understand that you may disagree with me and I completely respect and understand that. I feel like everybody interprets the show differently and it might mean something different to me than it does to you.
1. 13 Reasons Why glorifies and dramatizes suicide for entertainment.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a very intriguing show and I think the intent is to raise awareness which isn’t a negative thing at all. However, If you’ve been in Hannah’s spot, you know what it feels like to need to be heard, that maybe if you just make people feel bad enough, they will feel horrible and you will feel better. But the reality is, until you become the new tragedy, people don’t wake up. Suicide is painful and excruciating to everyone affected; not something to get entertainment from.
2. 13 Reasons Why pushes the idea that love could beat mental illness.
Reality: If Cly Jensen came out with his love for her, there’s no promise that Hannah’s life would be better off. Mental illnesses aren’t something that get better when someone cares about you. Granted, you may not feel as alone or as abandoned, but depression and anxiety aren’t immediately fixed by someone being there. Sorry that’s not romantic enough.
3. 13 Reasons Why can be a major trigger to people going through or already battling with depression.
I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve beat suicide attempts, but it’s amazing how after even a couple episodes, I found myself thinking some rough and rather disturbing thoughts. That maybe you could get justice and people would feel what you feel. Why would you put yourself through that?
4. Suicide should not be an entertainment topic.
Again, I think the goal is to raise awareness and I fully support that, but many people on social media are buzzing about this show like it’s keeping up with the Kardashians or a new season of Pretty Little Liars. The only thing it should make you want to do is re-think how you treat others and maybe you should stand up when bullying, abuse, and mistreatment happens around you. It is so disturbing to me that this would be a topic of shallow conversations.
5. 13 Reasons Why focuses more on vengeance than closure.
You watch Cly battle to reveal the truth through every episode and Hannah’s parents are trying to come up with the reasons and the ability to understand why their daughter committed suicide. You see the people who damaged Hannah and hurt her, both intentionally and unintentionally, go through hell because they’re trying to figure out what went wrong. Of course, they don’t deserve it, but it doesn’t fix anything either.
6. Pain, loneliness, and bullying do not validate taking your life.
I understand that you don’t realize that when the mouth of depression is swallowing you (believe me, I do) but a show like that when you are looking for reasons to take your own life just helps you find them. I’m not even suicidal anymore, but I find myself looking back and coming up with adequate reasons I could have given to make more attempts than what I did. Stop giving people reasons. Stop taking that pain and saying “yeah maybe we can understand why you want to kill yourself”. It should never be an option, never be okay, never be alright. But instead, we are watching television shows where this brutal pain is put on display to validate these reasons. It’s not okay, end of story.
I believe we should tell more stories. I believe we should let society know that what we do, what say, and how we treat people can affect the outcome of some of these life-threatening battles, but this is not the way to successfully do it.